This has been the most powerful question for me to answer, and one I have started to ask myself every time I hear myself planning to do something in the future - like wanting to travel the world, or wanting to live on a Mediterranean island or on a Japanese village on a hill.
In everything I do, answering this one question clears up so many things and helps arrive at a concrete action that I can take right now. Or it makes me realize that the reason I have in my mind for wanting to do something isn't the real reason at all and that there is something else instead that is motivating me to do it, which helps me unblock things on that side, which I otherwise would never have thought about.
And when I begin answering this question, the only acceptable reason that comes out is that I'm doing some other things that are more important to me right now and don't have the time or energy to spare.
All other reasons only result in other actions that I can take today to not have them as reasons. If it turns out that I don't have enough money today, then I have an action to increase my income which I can then invest in figuring out how. If it turns out that I don't have the right skills, I can then invest in acquiring those skills. If it turns out that I'm not in the right location, then I can invest in getting to the right location. And so on.
However, the common thing to do is to let time take its course and then hope that what are blocking reasons today won't be so in the future. That is like expecting to get different results by doing the same thing over and over even when we have already seen that doing it this way fails.
It can also happen that we notice the reality of what it takes to get to where we want and we can then determine that it isn't worth investing the effort in getting there and change our goal altogether.
No matter what the outcome, this has undoubtedly been the most powerful question to ask myself. Perhaps you should start answering it too.
In everything I do, answering this one question clears up so many things and helps arrive at a concrete action that I can take right now. Or it makes me realize that the reason I have in my mind for wanting to do something isn't the real reason at all and that there is something else instead that is motivating me to do it, which helps me unblock things on that side, which I otherwise would never have thought about.
And when I begin answering this question, the only acceptable reason that comes out is that I'm doing some other things that are more important to me right now and don't have the time or energy to spare.
All other reasons only result in other actions that I can take today to not have them as reasons. If it turns out that I don't have enough money today, then I have an action to increase my income which I can then invest in figuring out how. If it turns out that I don't have the right skills, I can then invest in acquiring those skills. If it turns out that I'm not in the right location, then I can invest in getting to the right location. And so on.
However, the common thing to do is to let time take its course and then hope that what are blocking reasons today won't be so in the future. That is like expecting to get different results by doing the same thing over and over even when we have already seen that doing it this way fails.
It can also happen that we notice the reality of what it takes to get to where we want and we can then determine that it isn't worth investing the effort in getting there and change our goal altogether.
No matter what the outcome, this has undoubtedly been the most powerful question to ask myself. Perhaps you should start answering it too.
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